John ...thanks for sharing that story...one
of the hardest things for people is to
restrain what they say in a moment of anger...
We are often told to "express our anger"..but
the lesson in your story is to find constructive
ways to do so and to get more in touch with
your own feelings and source of your own pain...

Sometimes parents want their children to "excel"
in areas of their parents weakness. Many parents
live vicariously through their children and when
the child does not meet up to a certain standard
the parent feels as if they've failed...

Your story touched a nerve today....thank you..

As you found out it's important to seperate the
issue of "loving your parent" from "disliking
their behaviors"...in an emotionally charged
atmosphere, it can be difficult...

Anger is a brief madness-
Horace, Epistles,Book I, 20 B.C

Father forgive them; for they know not what they
do.-Luke 23:34

To err is human, to forgive, divine-
Alexander Pope
An Essay on Criticism,1711