Hi Mark,

To add to your post. I was wrestling with the "What do I want?" question for over a year last year. And I must admit that I came up with many wonderful things that I wanted.

However in the end, I, like your post, realized that it all came down to how I feel. To the feelings I really wanted to experience.

So I began to ask myself a DIFFERENT question like "What feelings do I want to feel most in my finances. What feeling do I want to feel most in my relationships, What feeling etc. etc.?"

Once I figured the feeling part out. Once I realized that that was THE END that I was looking for, I just decided to CHOOSE that feeling.

Now I just act as If I already have that experience, and low and behold I feel great.

My life has been changed because of it.

Glad to see someone articulate my experience as well as you have here.

Cheers

Duane O. Adolph

> That reminds me of the age old problem of
> knowing what you want.

> Or what you really mean is what is your core
> desire? Many people will just say *More
> money*,
> but this is too general and not specific
> enough.

> Ask yourself if I had more money what would
> this
> give me? For example a bigger house/car, Ok
> if
> you had more money and a bigger house/car
> what
> would that give you that you havn't got now?

> Maybe more freedom, more security, So again,
> what would this give you that you havn't got
> now?
> And you keep going until you may end up with
> something like I want more significance in
> my life,
> which would make me feel more powerful and
> respected.

> So what you really want is more is more
> significance
> in your life, and you feel money is your
> route to
> that end.

> Marketers love to feed this feeling and will
> keep
> supplying your wants to move you closer to
> your dream.
> But really its an illusion, and once
> attained you will
> crave more and more.

> So your focus has to be what do I really
> want to *feel*
> that these external material objects will
> provide to me?

> Usually its something like happiness, or
> love which
> costs nothing and you can choose them right
> now!